I see a married man during work hours only, since his job is flexible. However, he is switching jobs and is saying it might affect things. Meaning, his job might not offer the same flexibility as the current one. He is not willing to meet after work. Every time I tried to make weekend plans in the past there was always an excuse. I even tried to get him to take a day off so he can spend a day with me to no avail. Seems like he doesn’t want to go out of his way and if it becomes too difficult to meet then it might not be worth to him? I like him a lot and wish we were a legit couple but the reality of being with MM is hitting
Answer from The Woomen
Dear Mistress,
So much is going on in this tiny paragraph. The most important thing, however, is the last sentence.
The reality of being a mistress is that you must accept the terms imposed by two other individuals. First one is from the wife. Whatever set of rules she sets, he must follow. Second set of rules come from the MM who does not want to lose his wife, but still wants to have an affair. You ultimately get the short end of the stick because you are dependent on the circumstances of two other individuals.
You state you like him a lot and wished to have him as your partner. Are you conscious of what you are wishing for? Do you want to be with someone who will cheat on you while claiming to be at work? Because that is who he is. If he did it to her, he will do it to you. You are not the exception. You are the mistress. In fact, he has more respect for his wife because he is lying to her, by stating he is at work, than he does for you. He has blatantly told you he is married, so you are not his priority.
ASK YOURSELF
I think what you want to do is take the time to seek answers from within. Ask yourself why are you comfortable being second best? Why are you accepting to be with someone only when they want to? Why are you not capable of having someone of your own? Why are you accepting excuses? Why are you making excuses?
What good would it be even if he were to leave his family and start a life with you? What guarantees do you have he will not cheat on you and leave you as well? Know that you deserve a great partner. Know you are worthy of a family of your own. Know you can and will have a family of your own. Know you can feel more than selfishness. Have compassion for yourself and free your mind and spirit from mediocrity by stepping into greatness. One thing I know for sure is: you cannot build you happiness on another person’s sorrow.
See you on the side of girlfriend/wife.
Reference
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