“Dating apps are a waste of time and energy”. At one point or another anyone who has used a dating app will feel this way. It is inevitable. The exhaustion begins for most of us during the filling of the profile questionnaire. In fact, the most popular apps are the ones with flexibility to fill out the least number of questions when we first sign up.
Four and under
At The Woomen Matchmaking we advise to use four apps or less. Select the ones that have the functions you like best and sign up for those. Take time to write a short and funny profile. There is a time and a place to talk about your personality, hopes, dreams and aspirations. A profile should not be it. Also, please keep in mind most people only look at pictures, height and weight. Here is an example of something catchy to use for your profile:
Hello stranger,
thank you for stopping by. Here is a little about me. I just got out of a long relationship, and now I finally know exactly what I want. I am looking for someone with HBO Max subscription. I willing to compromise for someone with only Hulu and Netflix. You are probably asking “then what are you bringing to the table?” The answer to that is a flat screen tv! Kindly reply with your log in credentials and let us make this happen!
Keeping it playful helps you stand out, it protects you from divulging too much information, which keeps you safe from potential predators, who can read between the lines, and pick up your weaknesses.
Interact only with people who are engaging.
As profiles start pouring your way, it is important to not waste time asking people if they are there. They are if you can still see their profile. They just do not care to interact with us. Move on, and keep sending your intro message by customizing it.
Typecasting
Apps are a great way to explore. Perhaps we have always been the type to be attracted to tall women/men, blondes instead of brunettes, Asian instead of Blacks. The app can be used to expand our horizon by talking to someone we usually would not and end our desire to typecast our partners. This is especially helpful for those of us who tend to date the same type of person repeatedly while running into the same issues we want to avoid.
It is not a chore
The search for the next person to make our heart skip a beat should be filled with hope and excitement and not be a burden. If someone is finding themselves dealing with a sense of fatigue, take a break. Skip a few days and return armed with positivity determined to have fun. I would suggest spending no more then five to ten minutes on each app a day, unless of course we met someone interesting. Just remember that love is here…we just have to find it.
