On part II of How to not get blocked on a dating app we will continue to explore the remaining trends that keep singles, single and inboxes empty. It is exciting to sign up on the latest dating app. Especially when we see so many incoming messages. As the hours turn into days, and the latter into weeks, we being to see those numbers plummeting. This is not necessarily a bad thing if one is narrowing down the winner. However, if we are seeing the figures decreasing without a proper prospect, perhaps it is time to analyze our actions and see what we are doing wrong.
Try avoiding:
- Sending messages like “Hey”. At this point in time, it is much better to not write at all than to send such salutations. Nothing says zero effort engaged as the word “hey”. Try instead sending something engaging such as a riddle https://parade.com/947956/parade/riddles/ or a joke https://parade.com/1041830/marynliles/clean-jokes/ , copy and paste one and you won’t even have to bother writing.
- Getting to know a person is difficult enough without mixed signals. Sending a message every four days is not helpful. We get it, there is a lot of confusion regarding texting etiquette. How soon is too soon? What will they think if I wait? What will they think if I do not wait? If I answer now and get busy later will they be upset? These are all questions we end up asking ourselves at one point or another. Still, building a bond requires consistency, dependency, and effort. It is better to be responsive and lose the person, rather than to play hard to get and lose the person. Reply if you are free. Great pretenses do not look good on anyone.
- Endless back and forth. There should be an objective. We see each other. We like each other. We start chatting. Next, there should be a plan to see one another. It makes no sense to solely correspond. Get to know what the person likes to do on their free time and suggest a plan. Or find a fun way to share one of your interests. If you like performing arts, suggest a play or a concert. If you they are into arts, ask them out on a trip to a museum or an art gallery. Find ways to share time together. It is the best way to know whether you are compatible or not. Remember, if you are just killing time on the app, you are also wasting your time, not only theirs.
- Being online but not responding. This action speaks volumes. No one is that important to where they can ignore a person and talk to them whenever they want to. Should you be in the habit of practicing this, do not be surprised when you find yourself in ghost town. Slowly but surely the number in your inbox will fall to zero. Efforts require rewards, and if you are not willing to provide them, someone else in the next slide will.
